Ladies listen, this man did not get used to a kid screaming like you did, he was not kept up nights tending to the crying and projectile poop, he isn’t seasoned in this.
Above all else, including your want for a mate is your child’s safety.
Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially.
Don’t go turning on the young man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him.
If you and the woman are just trying to have sex then you should not be meeting her kids.