On the other hand, if you’re genuinely confused and bothered by the ambiguity, it’s time to do some soul searching.
On the other hand, perhaps you see one another regularly, but one or the other (or both) of you is hesitant to use the words “boyfriend” and “girlfriend.” You see a lot of , and you like him, but you’re just not sure if you’re dating or if you have more of a friend with benefits arrangement. So, if you’re not sure that you’re dating, one could argue that you’re definitely not dating since there is no intention.
Once upon a time, this type of situation was rarer than it is today.
Our society had strict guidelines about how romantic relationships were to progress.
To take any of the steps out of order was to risk severe disapproval, especially for women who could end up with visible evidence of premarital sex.
It’s awkward, but I’ve found it is useful just to come out and say, “Mr. I feel as though we’re heading in X direction, and I am happy with that. More realistically, you’re going to have at least slightly different ideas about both the current status and the future of your relationship.