A person undergoing a divorce (or for some time after the divorce) is more focused on their emotional/physical needs.
However, as reality sets in and the consequences of a new relationship begin to unfold, this person often ‘bails’ out. (He does not hate the person who divorces, just the act of divorce!
These facts are not lies, although there may be some embellishment out of their own perspective and needs. Do you continue the relationship – but with caution?
These are big questions and an answer needs to be developed upon a solid foundation.
Here are some factors that I invite you to consider: 1.
It is not that they have been untrue, they are just not in a healthy enough place to make permanent choices. ) In marriage, God mysteriously unites the two into one flesh.
I have found that it takes at least 2 years AFTER a divorce before they may be healthy enough to make such choices. In divorce, this joining is ‘ripped’ apart what He has joined. Find a Christian counsellor and share what is going on in this new relationship. * The words that you may hear ringing in your head ‘but if I let this one get away, I am getting too old to find another’ are a lie!
I know of several marriages that have been restored during this time awaiting divorce and even after a divorce. A second marriage that is not well founded and given the time to develop is setting itself up to join this statistic.